Growing every day

Life is full of perspective. What i mean is we perceive things the way we want to. When i was dating this one girl it was apparent that she had a sarcastic personality. I never took to much offense at her jokes but just ignored them because i knew she was just kidding. However down the line we broke up and i continued to talk to her, only her sarcasm really began to hurt me and often left me in tears. The question is why the sudden change? Was it her or me? In retrospect it was me, i had broken up and still had feelings so in my mind i was looking for her acceptance but i received what i had always received, but this time i looked at it as rejection. Her responses and personality had not changed, she did not intentionally wish to hurt me, my perspective had changed. Another example is with another girl i had liked, i liked her so much that i took every hug and touch and look to mean she felt the same way. However as time would show i had perhaps seen some true “flirtation” and perhaps she was curious but she didn’t ever actually like me. That’s a harsh reality that i hate even now to admit but its the truth. My perspective made me look and create what i wanted to see and hear. Brewster has a blog on creating false realities i highly recommend checking it out. But all this to say that our relational perspective needs to allow us to look and see the reality of a situation not just what we want to see. We look through our filters and see what we want but we need to learn to look and see what is. Another HUGE factor is change your focus off yourself and  onto God and others. Love God and your neighbors the Bible talks about this and demands it. If you begin to look at every situation and care about the other person and God more than yourself than when you walk into the room and “someone says hello wrong [ you won't freak out because you realize] they probably don’t hate you they may have just had a bad day.”-Tomas. It’s so important to get the perspective of others. Love God and your neighbors and worry bout them and be concerned with God and less concerned about yourself and what others may think of you. In the end if you change your perspective their will probably be a lot less miscommunication and misunderstandings. -this will be a couple of blogs maybe more and i would like to thank any and all who added to my thoughts on this subject: thanx to Tomas, Mr. Dixon’s speech class, Dr. White’s class, Dr. Rutland,  Brewster, Td. Jakes new book “repostioning yourself” and all my friends that i’ve sat and discussed this with your opinions and statements really stood out to me. and of course God thank you for making this so clear and obvious to me.